I got a text from my mom last night. She was letting me know that she’s going to be thinking of me today and to stay calm. I explained that he didn’t need to be at the pre-arraignment hearing this morning, it’s just his public defender and the other side meeting up to decide what sort of evidence there is and what the charges should be. No judge, just legal purgatory.
Mom: Are you still putting the house up for sale?
Me: We'll figure that out when we have more info on what's to be expected.
Mom: Oh ok. Are you planning on coming down here?
I knew this was coming. She texted last week to apologize for not sending me any money since before Christmas. I told her not to worry about it. We’re both working, he’s making mad overtime and we’re saving every extra penny for whatever comes next. She replied that she wanted me to have my own money, not shared money. I didn’t reply. I know she’s worried about what’s going to happen next, and that her response had a thinly veiled “when the divorce is final” tacked on to the end of it.
Me: There's no plans right now. I'm supporting him through this and I'm not making any plans for anything other than keeping our jobs, keeping the bills paid. He's getting his therapy, I'll be getting mine, and we're both hoping to get through this whole situation with our sanity before anything else.
Me: I know that's probably not what you want to hear.
Mom: No it's not but it's better to know you have a plan. I trust you and I hope you will let me stand with you through this.
I’ll take any support I can get right now. I’m assuming that by the time I finish and post this, the meeting with the public defender will have started. Hopefully we’ll get more information about what’s happening, and then we can figure out what’s happening next.
